I’ve known her since before I can remember. She was in Cinderella, Snow White, Ever After, Tangled, even Hansel and Gretel.
She is the evil, wicked stepmother.
Now I know of course Disney is not to blame for this. They simply took stories and turned them into movies. However, if you think about children start watching these movies at a very young age, my daughter was about 2 when she started her Disney Princess obsession. So, starting at the age of 2 are 3 they see a stepmother as an evil figure. She is an awful, jealous, cruel woman. At this young age, stepmothers are given the label of “bad”.
And as they get older, things don’t change. I can’t count the number of movies that portray the stepmother aw awful, often times being referred to as a “stepmonster”. It’s as if all step-moms out there are being setup for failure!
This came to my attention when I was in the kitchen with my significant other’s 5 year old daughter. She was helping me prepare dinner when she suddenly turns toward me and says “Nicki, I don’t want you to be my stepmom.” Obviously this caught my completely off guard and I was right away nervous about where this conversation was going. So I simply said, “Ok, why not?” “Because stepmoms are bad.” she answered. “Why do you say that?” And then she paused for about 30 seconds and replied “I don’t know, they just are.”
As I continued stirring my spaghetti sauce I sat there trying to figure out where this idea came from. I don’t believe anyone told her this, and the fact that she didn’t know why she thought that, she just did. Obviously this idea has just been sort of “implanted” in her mind through these stories and movies.
Now trust me, I am not trying to beat up on Disney Princess Movies. I love them and own just about every single one of them. I just find it very interesting that there is definitely a universal theme about stepmothers, and it has definitely impacted children on how they view stepmothers.
Have any of you experienced anything like this? I would love to hear your thoughts and opinions!