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Schedules, Routines, and Habits – the key to a smooth operation

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Any homemaker/housewife/stay-at-home mother knows that what they do is a full time job.  We don’t work M-F 9-5, our jobs are 24/7/365!  We don’t get a break, our work is constant.  That being said, that doesn’t mean you should have to be “actually working” the entire time.  Your day should not be overwhelming.  You should not be cleaning from dust ’till dawn.  There must be balance between work and pleasure, and this is made possible using schedules, routines, and forming good habits.

I have mentioned in previous posts the importance of a schedule.  Everything needs to be done with purpose and in order.  You shouldn’t be going from room to room doing random chores and only half completing something before moving on to the next.  Just like you would at a desk job, you need to have a schedule at your home job.

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The first thing you want to start with is creating a cleaning schedule.  This should include daily, weekly, monthly, and quarterly or seasonal cleaning.  First start out with your daily tasks, things that need to be done every single day.  This might include doing the dishes, picking up and organizing rooms, doing laundry, making beds, taking out the garbage and recycle, cleaning the kitchen, sweeping/mopping/vacuuming… anything that needs to be done every day.  Next you need to figure out your weekly schedule.  This can be done many different ways.  I’ve found that what works best for me is to completely clean one category of our home everyday.  For example, Monday is my kitchen day.  I clean the kitchen top to bottom.  Tuesday I clean the bedrooms, this includes washing bedding, dusting, washing windows, etc.  Wednesday is my bathroom day, so I clean all the bathrooms in house top to bottom including washing towels and rugs.  Of course this method may not work for you, and that’s perfectly fine!  Another way to do your weekly schedule may be something like Mondays and Wednesdays you dust, mop and vacuum, and clean windows.  Tuesdays and Thursdays you clean linens and bathrooms.  Fridays you clean the kitchen.  Whatever works for you and your needs is best!  It may even take some experimenting to figure out what best works for you.  Once you have your weekly schedule, it’s time to make your monthly schedule.  Obviously this will include some more deep cleaning things that don’t need to be done as often.  Monthly chores may include things like cleaning grout, oiling wood furniture, reorganizing your pantry, and cleaning out your refrigerator and freezer.  Once you’ve completed that list, it’s on to the extreme cleaning, quarterly or seasonal cleaning.  My chores for these lists include things like washing walls, flipping mattresses, dry clean bedding, switch out closets to appropriate season, clean dryer houses, clean carpets, etc.

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Once you have your schedules’ completed, stick to them!  You will want to create a list of all these things that is somewhere safe, perhaps on your computer or put into a binder that you can easily refer to.  The next thing you’ll want to do is get yourself a planner.  This planner is going to be your new best friend, always by your side to help you whenever you need it.  Each night before you go to sleep, you will want to create your tentative schedule for the following day.  I say tentative because let’s face it, anything can happen to throw you off track.  Your schedule has to be somewhat flexible.  You will also want to be pretty detailed with your schedule.   You want to be the master of your day, not the victim!  Obviously the first thing on your schedule will be determining what time you wake up.  Trust me, I’m about as far from being a morning person as one can get.  But with time, I’ve learned that an ounce of morning is worth a pound of afternoon.  It’s amazing how much can be accomplished before breakfast!  Next, in planning your schedule for the day, be sure to give the correct things the correct priority.  It should go in this order, the needs and companionship of your husband and children, second home duties, and third outside duties.  Fit in your cleaning tasks for the day properly.  Also plan out your meals for the day, make sure that you include in your schedule proper preparation time.  It’s a good idea to prepare as much in advance as possible.  Also, make sure you are working forward and not backwards.  By this I mean if you know you are going to have a lot of dishes with dinner for the night and your dishwasher is already half full, get the dishes done ahead of time.  This way when dinner is finished and you are cleaning up, you have an empty dishwasher waiting for you.

Another thing you will want to keep in your planner is a list of projects you’d like to get completed around the house.  Many planners include a notes section, and this list could be kept there.  This list may include things like reorganizing a closet or drawer, or redecorating the guest room.  This list will come in handy when you find you have some extra free time and need something to fill it with.  Another list to keep in your planner is of household of personal things you’d like to purchase at the appropriate time.  I can’t count the number of times I’ve come across something I wanted to buy in the future, but didn’t write it down and couldn’t remember it later.  This list will prevent that!  Another list, and what I would consider to be the most important one, is a list of things you have run out of and need to purchase on your next trip to the store.  You will want to keep this list handy and be able to tear it out for each shopping trip, so you may want to keep an extra small notebook for this purpose.  Some planners that are made specifically for mothers’ and homemakers actually have a grocery list that you can tear out each week, so that could be used for this purpose as well.  Anytime you run out of something, be sure to write it down on this list right away, that way you won’t forget later.  Also as you are planning your meals, make sure you have all the ingredients needed, anything you don’t have will be added to this list.  There’s nothing worse than going to get the horseradish sauce your husband loves with his meal out of the refrigerator and realizing you ran out of it a few days ago and forgot to get more!  This list will prevent that sort of thing from happening.

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In your planner you will also want to be sure to write down birthday’s and other important dates, as well as things you need to get done in advance.  For example if you need to custom order a birthday cake a week before someone’s birthday in order for it to be ready in time, make sure you write that down!  The life of a housewife can be so busy and almost overwhelming at times, it’s easy to forget things.

Of course, be sure to schedule in some time for yourself!  Whether it be reading, catching up on your favorite show, or knitting, it’s so important to do something for yourself everyday.  Don’t become a slave to your home.  Keeping yourself on schedule will keep you happy and truly find pleasure and satisfaction in what you do!

 

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Here are the cleaning schedules’ I use, they are Word Documents so you can edit them as necessary to match your needs!

 

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Death Of The Housewife

There was once a time when women went to work in hopes of meeting the man of her dreams.  She worked as a secretary doing everything she could to catch the eye of her handsome boss.  She dreamed of the day when one of the men from the office would sweep her off her feet, out of the office, and she could be what she had always wanted to be, a housewife.

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That time is gone.

Here is an article written by Bidisha published in Emirates Woman magazine in November 2012.

“The surrendered wife deserves our sympathy,”says, Bidisha, broadcaster and writer specializing in the arts and culture and social affairs including gender, class, sexuality and race. There is no person more boring, or bored, than a stay-at-home wife. I would recommend such a role only for women who have small brains, small hopes, small potential and small personalities. But I know no such women. What I do know is that 5,000 years of inequality, machismo, conditioning, intimidation and oppression have resulted in this strange, stunted creature – the surrendered wife – who finds some kind of sick nobility in grovelling to a man. The wretch believes that her highest virtue lies in giving the greatest attention to the smallest things: the dustpan, the oven, the crib, the sink – and the contents of her husband’s underpants. The surrendered wife deserves our sympathy. Without realizing it, she has been subjected to a deep cultural, social and political lobotomy, internalized the propaganda that says she is naturally destined for wife-work according to her innate capacities, and has emerged competent but wholly unrebellious. She is good at organizing the home, judicious with her children’s upbringing, efficient about the family’s comings and goings, savagely chic when entertaining. But she is dependent for her survival – and that makes her submissive. If she doesn’t please her lord and master, she has nothing to fall back on. In order to survive, she must turn herself into a giver in the bedroom, a maid on the landing, a cook in the kitchen, a nanny in the nursery, a secretary at the desk, a housekeeper in the pantry and a hostess in the lounge. No matter what reflected status she may gain from her husband, at the core of it she herself is merely a geisha: there to serve. She exists to be exploited for her sexual, social and physical labour but, as a dependent subordinate with no power of her own, she can be bullied, hurt, disparaged or replaced whenever her owner chooses. When a woman’s scope is reduced to the four walls of her home, her soul shrinks accordingly. Her frustration, boredom and bitterness are sublimated into obsession with petty surface details, extreme self-objectification, obsessive shopping and the bullying of staff. Because she is isolated, she doesn’t have the resources to fight the source of her oppression – that is, her husband and the entire macho ethos that keeps her in her place – and so she transfers her rage onto other women, satisfying her insecurity by making small-minded, insecure, sniping judgements. She begins to police other women’s behaviour, perhaps even her own daughters’ behaviour, punishing them if they do not conform. This is understandable and it’s what oppressed groups have always done. It is easier to lash out laterally than face the reality of oppression; easy to submit to misogynist ‘tradition’, hard to fight such entrenched views, especially when they are backed up by the threat of violence. I believe women deserve much more than a life of service. That is not a life, it is merely an existence in which all of our resources are used up for others’ benefit. That said, the hardest and most profound free work we do – bringing up children, caring for elderly relatives, keeping communities together peacefully – should be acknowledged, honoured and credited instead of being assumed, expected, unpaid, undervalued and taken advantage of. Instead of women judging each other, or themselves, they should judge men. We deserve to go into the world to fulfill our potential without being leered at, opposed, judged, sexually harassed, sexually assaulted, followed or abused. We deserve to be treated equally as minds and personalities, not as objects. A woman has a basic human right to be seen as a person in her own right, an individual, and not a man’s wife, someone’s daughter, someone’s mother, someone’s sister or someone’s neighbour, with all the labour and duties that entails. And when we come home unmolested from our studies, our work or visiting friends and family, we will do precisely half of the work required, and the man should do the other half. Since a man makes half a baby, he should do half the childcare. Since he makes half the dirt, he should do half the cleaning. And since he eats half the food, he should do half of all the kitchen work. Men have killed each other in great wars, put other men on the moon, created vast architectural structures and tiny electronic circuits, and constructed complex governments in which men help other men achieve wealth, status and power. Women have done so too, of course, but their names are erased from history and their contribution ignored, belittled, downgraded or sidelined. Men have developed intricate religions, laws and courts in which, year after year, men who abuse women walk free using a variety of excuses. Are you telling me that Man, this great and complex creation, in all his genius and abusiveness and hypocrisy, is not capable of wiping a baby’s bottom? Being a surrendered wife is dull, repetitive, unjust, unfulfilling and submissive. Obedient women don’t make history, they merely clean it and furnish it for men to inhabit, and are not credited afterwards. Never forget that surrender is the very last resort of heroes, warriors and adventurers. It is easy to be a slave because you know what your fate is: to be a slave forever. But that is no life. Women are too interesting to be hidden from the world, too intelligent to be barred from contributing in full, too witty to be silenced in public, too dynamic to be held back from the outside world and too strong to be denied.
This article is ridiculous and unbelievable offensive.  Is this the view we have of today’s housewife?  I hate the idea that this is no longer seen as a desirable and noble position.  Between feminists and the disgusting shows on TV (Housewives of Beverly Hills, New Jersey, etc.) the housewife has become a joke.  Children are being raised by strangers because woman have become selfish and career obsessed.  Family values don’t seem to be a priority anymore.  And what for?  For the money?  Is our society so obsessed with having the newest, latest this or that that we sacrifice being at home with our children so we can make money to “keep up with Jones’s?”  Is it pride?  Have women become so prideful that they couldn’t bear the thought of being labeled a housewife?  Being at home and caring for their children and husband would be punishment.  Well I ask you this, why did you have children in the first place?  Why do you have a family if you don’t want to care for them and be around them?  Of course their are circumstances where a woman truly cannot be at home, and I understand that.  And in that she is doing all she can to take care of her family.  But if a woman can be home, and isn’t, that is what I don’t understand.  Are you “above” us housewives?  And speaking of submission and serving, a career woman does this just as much as the housewife.  Sadly, she is submitting and serving her boss and career instead of her husband.
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The housewife is becoming a lost art.  How many women do you know that do all the traditional things of a housewife?  She cooks, cleans, mends clothes, cares for the children, gardens, looks lovely all the time, and always cares for and serves her husband.  In most households dinner is now sitting in front of the TV with a microwave dinner on a tray table.  There’s no prayer before eating, there’s no talking and bonding over a lovely homemade meal prepared by mom.
The true housewife is dead.