I know I have touched on this topic before, but the way that you greet your husband when he comes home from work can have a huge impact on your relationship, whether you realize it or not. It is so much more meaningful than we give credit.
Your husband is coming home from a long, stressful day at work. He’s worn out and tired, and there’s nothing more he would like than to come home to his lovely wife and children; his sanctuary. Instead, he comes home to chaos. The children are running around the house making lots of noise, there’s a pile of dishes in the sink, there are toys scattered about, dinner isn’t even close to being ready, and his wife looks stressed out and disheveled. No one even hears him come through the door. He realizes all he really wants to do is walk right back out that door, and go have a drink at a nearby bar.
Your husband is driving home from a long, stressful day at work. He’s exhausted and tired, and he can’t wait to be home with his lovely wife and children. He walks through the door, the house is spotless and the aroma of dinner fills his nose. His wife greets him looking fresh faced and lovely, carrying his favorite drink in her hand. The children are calm and lovely as well, and greet him with longing hugs and kisses. His favorite genre of music is playing softly throughout the house. Everything is wonderful and perfect. He is so happy to finally be home with his family; he is truly in his sanctuary.
Which husband is trying to leave work early, and which one seems to always have to work late? Make your home a place that your husband counts down the minutes to come home to.
15-20 minutes before your husband comes home, you should freshen yourself up. Powder your face, brush your hair, sprtiz on some perfume. Make sure you don’t look tired or stressed out, you should look fresh faced and happy to see him. Don’t greet him in sweatpants and house slippers! Put on a nice housedress or outfit that he likes you in. You’ll want to do the same for your children. Make sure they’re in clean clothes and have clean faces. If your children eat dinner separately from you and your husband, they should already be fed and the dishes cleaned or in the dishwasher. The entire kitchen should be cleaned except for whatever you’re using for you and your husbands dinner. In fact, the whole house should be clean. There shouldn’t be any clutter lying around. Everything should be neat and tidy and in its place, all surfaces should be wiped down. The house should smell clean and fresh, but not of cleaning products. You should also greet him with a drink when he comes home. This doesn’t necessarily mean alcoholic, maybe when he gets home he would like nothing more than some fresh squeezed lemonade or ice water. If you don’t know, ask him! My husband loves the classic tunes of Dean Martin and Frank Sinatra, so I make sure before he comes home that it is playing on the stereo in the house. iTunes radio or Pandora are wonderful to have your husbands favorite music playing when he comes home! You also want to know what time he wants dinner. I know some men want to come home to dinner ready on the table, while others prefer to relax for a while before eating. You know your husband better than anyone else, so you know what you need to do in order to meet his needs. And if you don’t know, ask! How many of you have actually ever asked your husband what he would like when he comes home?
This is not only good for your husband, it is good for you and your entire family as well. The entire atmosphere of your home is different when you put these things into practice. You will eliminate stress as you will have everything prepared by the time he gets home. If you’re using your schedule, you should have no problem getting everything done. You will also enjoy the extra time you have together. Instead of there being chaos trying to finish cleaning and putting dinner on the table, these things will be already taken care of. You can enjoy watching a favorite TV show or movie together before bed. Your quality time together will increase. He will also be in a much better mood when he gets home, which definitely puts the entire family at ease. Everyone is happy to see each other, and there is minimal stress and tension. It will make you feel so good knowing that you created this!
The bottom line is that he should be coming home to peacefulness. He should be coming home to a place full of joy and love, a place where he can unwind and relax after a hard days work. Let him start the conversation for the evening, you should never bother him with problems or your day right when he gets home. If he’s around people all day, he really might just want some peace and quiet, or maybe even a little time alone. He may just want to enjoy your company, minus the conversation. You should try your best to respect this and look at things from his point of view. Obviously if there’s something important, you should bring it up. Just don’t do it the moment he walks through the door. With this, timing is everything. Also, with this peaceful environment it makes talking about these things much easier.
Make your husband happy to come home… make him want to come home! So many women complain about how their husbands are always working late. They should take a step back and look at what he may be coming home too, it could very easily explain why he chooses to work extra hours rather than come home on time. Doing these simple things can really make such a difference in your home environment and your marriage. Besides your husband feeling happy and relieved when he comes home, you will find that you too feel satisfaction from what you’ve done. You’ve created a sanctuary for your husband and yourself. You will feel accomplished and proud that you are able to make your husband so happy, and make your home a place he wants to be.
For those of you that don’t do this, I challenge you to try it! See the difference it will make in your lives! See the difference in the way your husband acts when he comes home, and even the way he treats you. You are showing him how much you truly care about him by making something so simple, such as him coming home from work, so important to you. He will see the effort you are putting forth, and you will be rewarded in so many ways.